One of my exes “broke” her phone while working in another country … given things that happened after, she was absolutely cheating on me.
The intensely stupid thing is that I’d been in a poly relationship when we got together, so if she wanted to go off and get some vitamin D I would have egged her on.
It really is so telling when people who are in poly relationships cheat. Like. What the fuck. The door was wide open and you walked into the wall, then pulled the door closed on your own foot
Something to do with getting a thrill from cheating I guess?
But, like, getting whatever combination of people to fuck you in whatever configuration you want, and maybe with an audience, isn’t enough of a thrill?
Cheaters are selfish, greedy, insecure, gaslighting liars.
It truly is wild that people will be in a situation where they are totally able to do something so long as they are forthcoming about it… but nope, they can’t do it, they can’t be honest.
They feel like they don’t owe explanations to people for behavior they know is shitty, and justify their own clandestine behavior out of ultimately selfishness.
They’re greedy cowards.
I’ve long been of the mind that yes, poly, enm, yes, it can work in theory, and sometimes in practice… but the people involved have to be significantly more morally/ethically responsible, significantly more mature and well adjusted than the average person actually is… and, via the nature of more people being involved than a tradtional 1 to 1 relationship, you’re introducing more potential failure points.
I am sure that there are some enm setups, polycules that are stable and not toxic or abusive.
I am also sure that there are many more that are extremely dramatic and full of insane bullshit.
One of my exes “broke” her phone while working in another country … given things that happened after, she was absolutely cheating on me.
The intensely stupid thing is that I’d been in a poly relationship when we got together, so if she wanted to go off and get some vitamin D I would have egged her on.
I really don’t understand cheaters.
It really is so telling when people who are in poly relationships cheat. Like. What the fuck. The door was wide open and you walked into the wall, then pulled the door closed on your own foot
Couldn’t have put it better myself!
Something to do with getting a thrill from cheating I guess?
But, like, getting whatever combination of people to fuck you in whatever configuration you want, and maybe with an audience, isn’t enough of a thrill?
Cheaters are selfish, greedy, insecure, gaslighting liars.
It truly is wild that people will be in a situation where they are totally able to do something so long as they are forthcoming about it… but nope, they can’t do it, they can’t be honest.
They feel like they don’t owe explanations to people for behavior they know is shitty, and justify their own clandestine behavior out of ultimately selfishness.
They’re greedy cowards.
I’ve long been of the mind that yes, poly, enm, yes, it can work in theory, and sometimes in practice… but the people involved have to be significantly more morally/ethically responsible, significantly more mature and well adjusted than the average person actually is… and, via the nature of more people being involved than a tradtional 1 to 1 relationship, you’re introducing more potential failure points.
I am sure that there are some enm setups, polycules that are stable and not toxic or abusive.
I am also sure that there are many more that are extremely dramatic and full of insane bullshit.