Cheaters are selfish, greedy, insecure, gaslighting liars.
It truly is wild that people will be in a situation where they are totally able to do something so long as they are forthcoming about it… but nope, they can’t do it, they can’t be honest.
They feel like they don’t owe explanations to people for behavior they know is shitty, and justify their own clandestine behavior out of ultimately selfishness.
They’re greedy cowards.
I’ve long been of the mind that yes, poly, enm, yes, it can work in theory, and sometimes in practice… but the people involved have to be significantly more morally/ethically responsible, significantly more mature and well adjusted than the average person actually is… and, via the nature of more people being involved than a tradtional 1 to 1 relationship, you’re introducing more potential failure points.
I am sure that there are some enm setups, polycules that are stable and not toxic or abusive.
I am also sure that there are many more that are extremely dramatic and full of insane bullshit.
Cheaters are selfish, greedy, insecure, gaslighting liars.
It truly is wild that people will be in a situation where they are totally able to do something so long as they are forthcoming about it… but nope, they can’t do it, they can’t be honest.
They feel like they don’t owe explanations to people for behavior they know is shitty, and justify their own clandestine behavior out of ultimately selfishness.
They’re greedy cowards.
I’ve long been of the mind that yes, poly, enm, yes, it can work in theory, and sometimes in practice… but the people involved have to be significantly more morally/ethically responsible, significantly more mature and well adjusted than the average person actually is… and, via the nature of more people being involved than a tradtional 1 to 1 relationship, you’re introducing more potential failure points.
I am sure that there are some enm setups, polycules that are stable and not toxic or abusive.
I am also sure that there are many more that are extremely dramatic and full of insane bullshit.