• arctanthrope@lemmy.world
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      15 hours ago

      what about people who avoid online play altogether because the concept of spending your free time with random strangers who are mostly incentivized to dislike you while playing a game that others are likely cheating at sounds like one of the worst things imaginable

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              12 hours ago

              amazing, i’m glad that’s your belief… sounds like you’ve never been depressed or lonely

              • Fredthefishlord@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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                2 hours ago

                Lonely is exactly the shit I’m saying is fixable. Depressed, well, a large part of depression is about preventing you from putting forth effort. So like, yeah, it can fuck that up. But you gotta be optimistic. Like if my anxiety ridden ass can do it most people should be able to

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                12 hours ago

                But dude right tho. When you depressed it’s natural that you can’t put any effort, hence you can’t make friends. When I’m depressed I don’t even talk to anyone, kinda impossible to make friends that way, you know?

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                  11 hours ago

                  alright but like, what if i’m not depressed? then what? how to make friends, how to meet new people?

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                    6 hours ago

                    What kind of things do you like to do? Join a club, or team. Or whats something you think you might like to do? Take group lessons, or join a club and admit you know nothing and want to learn. People love sharing their hobbies. Mahjong, tennis, book club, home brewing, hiking, knitting, bird watching, ball room dancing… anything. Hang out in the organized setting multiple times, then if something clicks, hang out outside of the group. "Hey we should play mahjong at my place. Know another 2 people who we could play with? " “that was a great hike. Im hungry. Anyone want to get lunch?”

                    Take initiative, but dont force it.