• YappyMonotheist@lemmy.worldEnglish
    21·
    11 hours ago

    It’s objectively better to be selfless and prosocial than selfish and inconsiderate, but the latter is comfier.

    • TotallynotJessica@lemmy.blahaj.zoneMEnglish
      10·
      9 hours ago

      but have you considered that putting up with abuse only enables more abuse? The fear of being labeled a “selfish bitch” locks people into toxic cycles that can only be broken by standing up for oneself. It also perpetuates a culture where people are expected to not speak out and to sacrifice everything to not rock the boat, even when the consequences are dire. It is good to be prosocial by default, but passivity only enables harm.

      • FreeAZ@sopuli.xyzEnglish
        2·
        2 hours ago

        There is an endless chasm between “selfish bitch” and “spineless worm”. You can be selfless and prosocial without being a pushover. Attitudes like that in OP’s meme usually lead to people justifying shitty behavior. In a lot of ways its saying “I’d rather be the abuser than be abused”, and then you’re even worse than the people pleaser.

      • gorbinos_quest@lemmy.worldEnglish
        4·
        6 hours ago

        It’s a false dichotomy anyway. Some people experiment abuse and get cornered in a place they can’t get out of. Some have a bit more freedom of movement and can choose what to do with it.

        Some just keep to themselves and don’t interact with others. Some aim to be kind and prosocial, and defend themselves while making sure the same abuse doesn’t happen to others.

        And then some only know the figure of the abuser and the abused, and their only complain about their worldview being a pyramid is that they’re not at the top.

        You can stop putting up with abuse without being selfish. Egoism is not the only alternative to passivity.