about your wife, imagine the roles being reversed, she wants to wear something but won’t because she fears your disapproval. see how that sounds? I feel guilty just making up that hypothetical. wear what you like, it isn’t your wife’s business, she can approve or ignore it.

oh, it’s not that, i just don’t want to rub her nose in it. she normally celebrates my unusualness but this is one i feel like i’ve got to ease her into.